Blue Monday – the most depressing day of the year?
Financial strain, cold and dark weather, failed New Year’s resolutions, and the return to routine after the holidays and festivities. Oh, and I almost forgot, it’s also Monday.
Many reasons to feel sad, low, or a little down. But when we look at the statistics, this day is no more depressing than any other day of the year. However, regardless of the data or how we personally feel on this day, it does create an opportunity to acknowledge and talk about mental health and mental illness.
We are here to help you find the words to start that conversation.
In fact, conversations about mental health can be life-saving. Although it can feel intimidating and difficult to begin, evidence shows that finding the perfect words isn’t necessary. That we speak about it, and how we speak about it, is far more important than the exact words we use.
Here are some easy guidelines to rely on when you want to help someone open up:
Normalize the conversation & help the person understand that their feelings aren’t strange or abnormal. Try talking about mental struggles in the same way you would talk about physical ones. Mental pain and worries in the brain, just like migraines, are caused by a combination of external, internal, social, and biological factors. They are not only common, but also very normal to experience.
Aim to understand, not to solve. When someone opens up about mental health issues, it can be tempting to try to fix them. Maybe you’ve faced similar challenges and know what helped you. While the intention is good, this can sometimes come across as practical or principal rather than empathetic and caring. Instead, try to listen. Feeling seen and heard can go a long way.
Ask open questions and allow silence. Support the person you’re talking to by asking open questions. This can help them explore their feelings more deeply and may bring them closer to finding a solution or seeking professional help. And remember silence isn’t a bad thing, it gives space for reflection and thought.
If you notice warning signs and think someone may be experiencing suicidal thoughts or thoughts of self-harm, please seek professional advice here.
Do you need to talk to someone?
On Blue Monday, January 19th, we are opening our support call to everyone. Join us between 12:00–13:00. Our Wellbeing Officer and psychologist, Julia, will be there to answer questions and discuss challenges you may be experiencing. Join the call here.